117.决不谈论自己
决不谈论自己。当你谈论自己时,要么是为了虚荣而夸奖自己,要么是因为自卑而责怪自己。这样对言者来说不适合;对听者来说,也不会感到愉悦。这点在日常谈话中需避免,在正式文件中更需避免,在公共演讲中则最需避免——这种时候,哪怕出现一点点愚蠢都是不明智的。当面谈论某人也很不得体,因为这样很可能让你陷入两个极端:被人认为是在谄媚,或是责难。
117.Nevertalkaboutyourself
Nevertalkaboutyourself。Todosoyoumusteitherpraiseyourself,whichisvain,orblameyourself,whichislittle-minded:itisunseemlyforthespeakerandunpleasantforthelistener。Andifyoushouldavoidthisinordinaryconversation,howmuchmoreinofficialmatters,andaboveall,inpublicspeaking,whereeveryappearanceofunwisdomreallyisunwise。Thesamewantoftactliesinspeakingofamaninhispresence,owingtothedangerofgoingtooneoftwoextremes:flatteryorcensure。
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